Gossip and hate: "That person is such a pain, what an idiot, have you seen his clothes?, she acts like such a bitch, he really thinks he's something. .he's not etc"
A word is not just a word, a word holds power. Once it's spoken it's out in the world and it starts to live it's own life. It will go from mouth to mouth and run out of control. You can not take back your words. It's out there alive. Shut your mouth, empty your mind. Why do you need to back talk about ppl.. how is this improving your situation? It is not. Do what improves your situation, work on the problem and find a solution. Make it happen. Because gossip creates only hate in others and your heart. Release. You deserve a better life than a life of hate.
Forgiving:
"Why would I forgive this person for hurting me? When you had enough you had enough, they need to apologize first, it's their fault"
It leaves you with hate in your heart, causing you emotional pain and spiritual in balance. If you don't forgive them for their mistakes, forgive them for your inner peace. Not forgiving and hating causes you only pain. You deserve happiness. Release. Forgive.
How many times have you heard someone say something like "I don't like people that talk behind my back, I want people to tell me in my face" ?
And than you tell them your truth and all of a sudden people feel offended because you have been honest with them. I bet it has happened to you.
We as human beings have to ask our self's this question: Why do we tell we want something but desire the opposit?.
Is it because we want a verification of the image we see of ourself? In that case we are ignoring the fact I have stated in an article before "we don't full see and perceive ourself" other people can be our mirror and reflect the pieces we can't see in ourself .and once we are aware of that we can realize our demands to demands that feel true to what we are and what we want from ourself and others.
it's not easy facing yourself and admitting that you have flaws and realive what they are. But never hold others a demand you can not live yourself.
if you want someone to "tell it in your face" be sure your ready about what they could tell you either positive or negative.. you will receive it in your face. Or maybe you could let them just talk behind your back and have a peace inside your heart. What matters to you the most: Possible chaos wich can be good or bad or do you rather live an illusion keeping your inner peace and the false sense of self awareness? .
