During the time I've been in England now I have noticed that the first year students are extremely promiscuous. They come to university with the idea to have as many sexual partners as possible and aren't afraid to be open about it. Coming to university while being in a relationship becomes almost a crime. I wonder, though, whether this attitude towards sex is healthy. In the time of King Hendry the eigth it was a crime to divorce the woman you married. When king Henry wanted to divorce his first wife Catherine of Aragon, the church still had a lot of power. In order to divorce Catherine he had to part with the believes of the church. The discussion about whether his motives were pure is one I'm not going to hold right now, but King Henry's divorce was a turning point in how people looked at marriage. Modern society doesn't solely part with the Catholic believe but with believe in general, it therefore holds only a few values. We all see it as a natural evolution in the trying to become free, yet the question is whether this freedom has done us more good than wrong.We are driven by desire and lust which used to be seen as sins. We take what we want without thinking about the consequences of our actions. Like King Henry followed his desire to be with Anne Boleyn, most of us follow their desire to be with whoever we think is fit and crosses our path. The unthoughtfulness of King Henry can be seen as the cause of Catherines' death, who loved him with all her heart untill the day she died and even though he treated her with no respect she respected him until her last breath. Respect, do we really know what it means? Can we still see the beauty of things if we materialize everything. Sex is supposed to be something magical and personal, it's about giving your body and soul to the person that you love. It's a gift we should treat with the utmost respect and loving care because it is the most fragile and personal gift one can give. I wonder what happened to courtesy and Love, in the past a man had to court a lady by reading poemes to her, holding the door open, respecting her and caring for her. Most of us don't care at all about who they sleep with, it is a one night thing, without emotion. If you ask me that is the biggest rubbish I have ever heard! You can put on a mask, a façade to the world and let others believe that you do not feel but deep down inside we all do. Sex is something so intimate it is almost impossible not to feel something during it. I'm not saying that we should go back to the times where sex was only allowed within a marriage but I do believe that we should stop lying to ourselves and the people around us. There is nothing wrong with showing your emotions and being honourable. Let's start treating eachother with repsect again and stop hurting the people around us. Let's stop abusing the people around us for they are people we love and we might love one more than another but we need to be honest about it, because you might be taking advantage of someone that truely loves you. Let's restore some of the magic that once surrounded making Love to someone, for I have to admit I would be the luckiest girl if I found someone I love as much as Catherne loved Henry and he would equally love me back.
