Sure, we've all heard the horror stories about the
ways men have attempted relationships. Obviously to start a
relationship you have to start talking to a girl first, and this is
where most men mess up. There are ways to get a girlfriend, and ways to
embarrass yourself. To avoid the latter I've jotted down some quick
advice.
WARDROBE
Silly, I know--who am I to tell you how to
dress? Well, I'm not going to force you to do anything, but I am going
to tell you what women look for. As different as we all are there are
things that are important to all of us.
Open your closet and
evaluate what's inside. How old is everything you own, does it fit
properly? How do you feel when you put these clothes on? You should
feel good about yourself, your clothes should fit and look nice. If you
can't tell which way is up and you're ready to have a meltdown--don't.
Go to a local store and pick up a copy of any decent men's magazine. GQ
and Maxim are famous for their men's clothing sections, so start with
those. Just to get an idea of what's in style.
HYGIENE
Take
care of yourself. Shower at least once everyday, and before anytime you
go out. Wear deodorant and cologne, regardless of if you "think" you
need it or not. Brush your teeth and use mouthwash. Make sure that
you're looking and smelling great.
Regardless of where you go
always have gum or mints handy. Anytime you get done with a meal or
have had something to drink pop one in, fresh breath is a necessity. I
can't even tell you how irritating it is when a guy is talking to you
with bad breath, disgusting.
COMMUNICATION
Keep
conversation with women light and appropriate. There is something
called a "comfort zone" and if you breach it you're going to lose the
interest of any women you're talking to. Never share too much
information about yourself, we don't care to hear anything about: sex,
drugs, bad habits, your best-friends-cousins-sister-in-law, how hot we
are, or why we should go out with you. ALL are inappropriate, instead
you should stick to simple things such as: surroundings, work, what
does she like to do, music, friends, etc...
If she's with friends
engage them in conversation as well. One of the worst things you can do
is try to single her out from a group. This puts her on the defensive,
and when that happens you've lost her.
If you want to get her
number but aren't quite sure to do it don't panic, you need a plan.
What are your plans for the weekend? Invite her along with friends to
go somewhere public and do something fun. The world is a scary place
for a woman she's not going to accept a random date from a stranger,
she has to feel comfortable.
Say something like, "My friends and
I are going to the park this weekend, they're having a concert and some
other events it's supposed to be fun. You're more than welcome to come
with us if you want, and you should bring your friends too. Here's my
number..."
You're on your way now. All you have to do is take
things slow and build a foundation. Relationships don't form overnight
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